Be around happy people.
Let me clarify. Surround yourself with happy people and people that make you happy. Thinking positive and happy thoughts on your own is a great and necessary daily practice. However, being surrounded by people that make you want to do nothing but smile while you’re thinking happy thoughts is revitalizing!
Is there someone you know that always brings a smile to your face? A loved one or a friend? Someone that you want to be around that brings out genuine happiness? Go be with those people! As much as you can. Call them, text them, send a letter or an email. Stay connected with the people that make you happy.
We need community. Humans need each other and innately want to connect with each other. It’s part of our survival! The happy people around us can help us to grow and become happier and healthier people. Smiling, hugging, high-fiving, holding hands, and gentle supportive touches help to release oxytocin in our brains. Oxytocin gives us that feeling of trust and connection with each other. It also helps relieve stress, anxiety, and depression.
The people around us can truly make a difference to our own happiness. Unfortunately, that also goes for our negativity. My plea to surround yourself with positive and happy people comes with another plea: stay away from negative people. Get them out of your life. There are too many people out there wanting to put their own stink on whatever you are happy about.“Ain’t no body got time fo that!” Eliminate those people from your life. You don’t need them.
If I told you to stand on a chair and lift me from the ground onto it with you, you’d have to be very strong to do that. It would, however, be quite simple for me to pull you down off the chair.
Happiness and negativity work the same way. It’s easy sometimes to get brought down and frustrated by someone’s poisonous negativity. You’d have to be pretty strong in your resolve to be happy in order to not be affected by that kind of unpleasantness.
It’s not your job to “fix” other people. You have to remember that at the end of the day you can choose to involve yourself with the negativity or choose to avoid it. You don’t need to get wrapped up in the drama. Sometimes it’s better to slip out of a conversation that’s turning negative than to engage and end up spinning more toxic garbage into the air. If you were to, instead, focus on keeping your smile firmly in place, you’d be better equipped to influence the grumps around you into trying to find an ounce of happiness.
“Daniel, this doesn’t seem very lovey… ‘Eliminate’ sounds pretty harsh!”
I know… I know. What I ask isn’t easy. I’m not asking you to shun all the negative people and run away from anyone frowning. I know how difficult it can be to sever ties that are no longer benefiting your happiness. I’m asking you to focus more on the relationships and connections you make that will bring smiles to your heart. Be aware of people that you like. Enjoy the smile that crawls over your face when you see someone that makes you genuinely laugh. Have fun with those smiling beautiful faces! Be around them so much that you don’t even think about those old negative people from the unhappy days.
Locking your smile and your happiness in place is a process, but it doesn’t have to be a negative process. The smiles I’ve experienced being around people and the honest love I’ve been shown from random strangers is astounding!
Find the people that restore your faith in humanity. Be around someone that surprises you with how kind they are. Smile to strangers… They’re people too. Be helpful… Just because something isn’t your “job” doesn’t mean it shouldn’t be done. Do what needs to be done. Be an overwhelming happy force of nature! People should see you and immediately want the happiness you have. You should also be around people that make you feel the same way.
The happier your circle of relationships becomes, the more happiness you will see spreading farther and farther. The outreach for happiness is unending if people are willing to be open to it. It just takes a few small daily decisions to be aware of the smiles around you and to be a smile for someone else.
Connecting with the people around us is a beautiful thing and honestly what I feel like life is truly about. Finding the moments where you can connect with other human beings and find deep, meaningful happiness through that community. People can be wonderful. Focus on those people and the wonderful happiness will overflow.
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